You have to consider the courage it takes to live each of these realities in a place like Nigeria before scoffing at people’s marital status.Being single after a certain age takes courage. You have to live with the daily experience of being asked:“How is your spouse?”“How are the children?”…when you are neither married nor have children.And then come the occasional pangs of “not being married” that hit you, not just because of loneliness, but because everyone around you is deafening your hearing with “my husband” or “my wife.”Marriage is a huge achievement because it takes a lot to keep living with someone who makes you so mad you want to quit this minute, but the next minute, you put everything behind you and continue as if they are the best thing that ever happened to you.It’s also not easy to constantly turn away from the myriad of “offers” out there because of your marital reality.When people castigate divorcees, I ask them: Do you think it’s easy to be unmarried after being married? And to start all over again?There are emotions to confront in divorce: anger, disappointment, fond memories, shattered dreams, resentment, trauma, etc. And these emotions can take years to release anyone from their grip.Single parenting is also a huge achievement in my books. The reality of doing the job of two people alone is very tough emotionally, in addition to constantly being “ashawo-shamed” if you are a woman in Nigeria.So, in a way, every marital status is an achievement in a society like ours, where judging and shaming people because of their marital status comes easily to people who most likely do not have joy in their own lives. People who have joy in their lives find it easier to envelop others with empathy, regardless of their marital reality.By the way, I have heard many ladies swear that the only reason they bother about men and marriage is for economic support. They believe that life is more enjoyable for a woman when she is “free”, economically and maritally.If I hadn’t met women who have the money but are terribly lonely, I would be running with this notion.Related NewsAre we growing together or apart? Have a meaningful conversation today (Part 2)My marriage… With Rev Sope RufusEconomic hardship stopping youths from starting families, says UNWomen have settled into marriage with men they have no business touching with a ten-foot pole because of loneliness. One told me how her husband was stealing her money, including money given to him for market runs. In her words, “He knows how to buy less than he is asked to buy and pocket the rest of the money.”Some opinions also claim that once a woman leaves a marriage, she does not want to marry again. But here is my observation…What she doesn’t want to go back to is the marriage she left, not that she is done with the idea of settling down again if a better option comes knocking.The thing about life is that people who are here want to be over there, while those who are already there would give an arm to be here.Single life can be very exciting for a lady until men disappoint her, and she just wants to go and “rest” in marriage. But marriage comes with its own truckload of stress.Whichever side of the divide you find yourself on, learn to enjoy the moment.It’s a mistake to postpone your happiness until you get to the other phase because no marital phase is exactly an Eldorado. Just pray for life to bless you with people who feel like home to you, whether in friendship or marriage.Ask many married women. Their regret today is failing to enjoy every bit of their single life before rushing into marriage. Yet, another major regret is rushing out of marriage instead of rolling up their sleeves to put in the work, believing that “out there” would hold the same bliss it did while they were single. Trust life to use such moments to clear your mind of all illusions once and for all!That’s also when people begin to come to the following realisations…You were not exactly married to the worst human being in the world. In fact, you may end up meeting people your ex is far better than.Life will not become more blissful out there because of anybody, unless you are equipped to bring bliss into your own life.There will be moments of self-doubt, especially when everyone around you is engrossed in their “spouse and children.” And if your emotional health is not firmly anchored in reason, you may rush into an entanglement.Whatever your marital reality is right now, savour the bliss it brings you. And find the courage to accept the burden it holds in the other hand. Being single after a certain age takes courage. You have to live with the daily experience of being asked:“How is your spouse?”“How are the children?”…when you are neither married nor have children.And then come the occasional pangs of “not being married” that hit you, not just because of loneliness, but because everyone around you is deafening your hearing with “my husband” or “my wife.”Marriage is a huge achievement because it takes a lot to keep living with someone who makes you so mad you want to quit this minute, but the next minute, you put everything behind you and continue as if they are the best thing that ever happened to you.It’s also not easy to constantly turn away from the myriad of “offers” out there because of your marital reality.When people castigate divorcees, I ask them: Do you think it’s easy to be unmarried after being married? And to start all over again?There are emotions to confront in divorce: anger, disappointment, fond memories, shattered dreams, resentment, trauma, etc. And these emotions can take years to release anyone from their grip.Single parenting is also a huge achievement in my books. The reality of doing the job of two people alone is very tough emotionally, in addition to constantly being “ashawo-shamed” if you are a woman in Nigeria.So, in a way, every marital status is an achievement in a society like ours, where judging and shaming people because of their marital status comes easily to people who most likely do not have joy in their own lives. People who have joy in their lives find it easier to envelop others with empathy, regardless of their marital reality.By the way, I have heard many ladies swear that the only reason they bother about men and marriage is for economic support. They believe that life is more enjoyable for a woman when she is “free”, economically and maritally.If I hadn’t met women who have the money but are terribly lonely, I would be running with this notion.Related NewsAre we growing together or apart? Have a meaningful conversation today (Part 2)My marriage… With Rev Sope RufusEconomic hardship stopping youths from starting families, says UNWomen have settled into marriage with men they have no business touching with a ten-foot pole because of loneliness. One told me how her husband was stealing her money, including money given to him for market runs. In her words, “He knows how to buy less than he is asked to buy and pocket the rest of the money.”Some opinions also claim that once a woman leaves a marriage, she does not want to marry again. But here is my observation…What she doesn’t want to go back to is the marriage she left, not that she is done with the idea of settling down again if a better option comes knocking.The thing about life is that people who are here want to be over there, while those who are already there would give an arm to be here.Single life can be very exciting for a lady until men disappoint her, and she just wants to go and “rest” in marriage. But marriage comes with its own truckload of stress.Whichever side of the divide you find yourself on, learn to enjoy the moment.It’s a mistake to postpone your happiness until you get to the other phase because no marital phase is exactly an Eldorado. Just pray for life to bless you with people who feel like home to you, whether in friendship or marriage.Ask many married women. Their regret today is failing to enjoy every bit of their single life before rushing into marriage. Yet, another major regret is rushing out of marriage instead of rolling up their sleeves to put in the work, believing that “out there” would hold the same bliss it did while they were single. Trust life to use such moments to clear your mind of all illusions once and for all!That’s also when people begin to come to the following realisations…You were not exactly married to the worst human being in the world. In fact, you may end up meeting people your ex is far better than.Life will not become more blissful out there because of anybody, unless you are equipped to bring bliss into your own life.There will be moments of self-doubt, especially when everyone around you is engrossed in their “spouse and children.” And if your emotional health is not firmly anchored in reason, you may rush into an entanglement.Whatever your marital reality is right now, savour the bliss it brings you. And find the courage to accept the burden it holds in the other hand. “How is your spouse?”“How are the children?”…when you are neither married nor have children.And then come the occasional pangs of “not being married” that hit you, not just because of loneliness, but because everyone around you is deafening your hearing with “my husband” or “my wife.”Marriage is a huge achievement because it takes a lot to keep living with someone who makes you so mad you want to quit this minute, but the next minute, you put everything behind you and continue as if they are the best thing that ever happened to you.It’s also not easy to constantly turn away from the myriad of “offers” out there because of your marital reality.When people castigate divorcees, I ask them: Do you think it’s easy to be unmarried after being married? And to start all over again?There are emotions to confront in divorce: anger, disappointment, fond memories, shattered dreams, resentment, trauma, etc. And these emotions can take years to release anyone from their grip.Single parenting is also a huge achievement in my books. The reality of doing the job of two people alone is very tough emotionally, in addition to constantly being “ashawo-shamed” if you are a woman in Nigeria.So, in a way, every marital status is an achievement in a society like ours, where judging and shaming people because of their marital status comes easily to people who most likely do not have joy in their own lives. People who have joy in their lives find it easier to envelop others with empathy, regardless of their marital reality.By the way, I have heard many ladies swear that the only reason they bother about men and marriage is for economic support. They believe that life is more enjoyable for a woman when she is “free”, economically and maritally.If I hadn’t met women who have the money but are terribly lonely, I would be running with this notion.Related NewsAre we growing together or apart? Have a meaningful conversation today (Part 2)My marriage… With Rev Sope RufusEconomic hardship stopping youths from starting families, says UNWomen have settled into marriage with men they have no business touching with a ten-foot pole because of loneliness. One told me how her husband was stealing her money, including money given to him for market runs. In her words, “He knows how to buy less than he is asked to buy and pocket the rest of the money.”Some opinions also claim that once a woman leaves a marriage, she does not want to marry again. But here is my observation…What she doesn’t want to go back to is the marriage she left, not that she is done with the idea of settling down again if a better option comes knocking.The thing about life is that people who are here want to be over there, while those who are already there would give an arm to be here.Single life can be very exciting for a lady until men disappoint her, and she just wants to go and “rest” in marriage. But marriage comes with its own truckload of stress.Whichever side of the divide you find yourself on, learn to enjoy the moment.It’s a mistake to postpone your happiness until you get to the other phase because no marital phase is exactly an Eldorado. Just pray for life to bless you with people who feel like home to you, whether in friendship or marriage.Ask many married women. Their regret today is failing to enjoy every bit of their single life before rushing into marriage. Yet, another major regret is rushing out of marriage instead of rolling up their sleeves to put in the work, believing that “out there” would hold the same bliss it did while they were single. Trust life to use such moments to clear your mind of all illusions once and for all!That’s also when people begin to come to the following realisations…You were not exactly married to the worst human being in the world. In fact, you may end up meeting people your ex is far better than.Life will not become more blissful out there because of anybody, unless you are equipped to bring bliss into your own life.There will be moments of self-doubt, especially when everyone around you is engrossed in their “spouse and children.” And if your emotional health is not firmly anchored in reason, you may rush into an entanglement.Whatever your marital reality is right now, savour the bliss it brings you. And find the courage to accept the burden it holds in the other hand. “How are the children?”…when you are neither married nor have children.And then come the occasional pangs of “not being married” that hit you, not just because of loneliness, but because everyone around you is deafening your hearing with “my husband” or “my wife.”Marriage is a huge achievement because it takes a lot to keep living with someone who makes you so mad you want to quit this minute, but the next minute, you put everything behind you and continue as if they are the best thing that ever happened to you.It’s also not easy to constantly turn away from the myriad of “offers” out there because of your marital reality.When people castigate divorcees, I ask them: Do you think it’s easy to be unmarried after being married? And to start all over again?There are emotions to confront in divorce: anger, disappointment, fond memories, shattered dreams, resentment, trauma, etc. And these emotions can take years to release anyone from their grip.Single parenting is also a huge achievement in my books. The reality of doing the job of two people alone is very tough emotionally, in addition to constantly being “ashawo-shamed” if you are a woman in Nigeria.So, in a way, every marital status is an achievement in a society like ours, where judging and shaming people because of their marital status comes easily to people who most likely do not have joy in their own lives. People who have joy in their lives find it easier to envelop others with empathy, regardless of their marital reality.By the way, I have heard many ladies swear that the only reason they bother about men and marriage is for economic support. They believe that life is more enjoyable for a woman when she is “free”, economically and maritally.If I hadn’t met women who have the money but are terribly lonely, I would be running with this notion.Related NewsAre we growing together or apart? Have a meaningful conversation today (Part 2)My marriage… With Rev Sope RufusEconomic hardship stopping youths from starting families, says UNWomen have settled into marriage with men they have no business touching with a ten-foot pole because of loneliness. One told me how her husband was stealing her money, including money given to him for market runs. In her words, “He knows how to buy less than he is asked to buy and pocket the rest of the money.”Some opinions also claim that once a woman leaves a marriage, she does not want to marry again. But here is my observation…What she doesn’t want to go back to is the marriage she left, not that she is done with the idea of settling down again if a better option comes knocking.The thing about life is that people who are here want to be over there, while those who are already there would give an arm to be here.Single life can be very exciting for a lady until men disappoint her, and she just wants to go and “rest” in marriage. But marriage comes with its own truckload of stress.Whichever side of the divide you find yourself on, learn to enjoy the moment.It’s a mistake to postpone your happiness until you get to the other phase because no marital phase is exactly an Eldorado. Just pray for life to bless you with people who feel like home to you, whether in friendship or marriage.Ask many married women. Their regret today is failing to enjoy every bit of their single life before rushing into marriage. Yet, another major regret is rushing out of marriage instead of rolling up their sleeves to put in the work, believing that “out there” would hold the same bliss it did while they were single. Trust life to use such moments to clear your mind of all illusions once and for all!That’s also when people begin to come to the following realisations…You were not exactly married to the worst human being in the world. In fact, you may end up meeting people your ex is far better than.Life will not become more blissful out there because of anybody, unless you are equipped to bring bliss into your own life.There will be moments of self-doubt, especially when everyone around you is engrossed in their “spouse and children.” And if your emotional health is not firmly anchored in reason, you may rush into an entanglement.Whatever your marital reality is right now, savour the bliss it brings you. And find the courage to accept the burden it holds in the other hand. …when you are neither married nor have children.And then come the occasional pangs of “not being married” that hit you, not just because of loneliness, but because everyone around you is deafening your hearing with “my husband” or “my wife.”Marriage is a huge achievement because it takes a lot to keep living with someone who makes you so mad you want to quit this minute, but the next minute, you put everything behind you and continue as if they are the best thing that ever happened to you.It’s also not easy to constantly turn away from the myriad of “offers” out there because of your marital reality.When people castigate divorcees, I ask them: Do you think it’s easy to be unmarried after being married? And to start all over again?There are emotions to confront in divorce: anger, disappointment, fond memories, shattered dreams, resentment, trauma, etc. And these emotions can take years to release anyone from their grip.Single parenting is also a huge achievement in my books. The reality of doing the job of two people alone is very tough emotionally, in addition to constantly being “ashawo-shamed” if you are a woman in Nigeria.So, in a way, every marital status is an achievement in a society like ours, where judging and shaming people because of their marital status comes easily to people who most likely do not have joy in their own lives. People who have joy in their lives find it easier to envelop others with empathy, regardless of their marital reality.By the way, I have heard many ladies swear that the only reason they bother about men and marriage is for economic support. They believe that life is more enjoyable for a woman when she is “free”, economically and maritally.If I hadn’t met women who have the money but are terribly lonely, I would be running with this notion.Related NewsAre we growing together or apart? Have a meaningful conversation today (Part 2)My marriage… With Rev Sope RufusEconomic hardship stopping youths from starting families, says UNWomen have settled into marriage with men they have no business touching with a ten-foot pole because of loneliness. One told me how her husband was stealing her money, including money given to him for market runs. In her words, “He knows how to buy less than he is asked to buy and pocket the rest of the money.”Some opinions also claim that once a woman leaves a marriage, she does not want to marry again. But here is my observation…What she doesn’t want to go back to is the marriage she left, not that she is done with the idea of settling down again if a better option comes knocking.The thing about life is that people who are here want to be over there, while those who are already there would give an arm to be here.Single life can be very exciting for a lady until men disappoint her, and she just wants to go and “rest” in marriage. But marriage comes with its own truckload of stress.Whichever side of the divide you find yourself on, learn to enjoy the moment.It’s a mistake to postpone your happiness until you get to the other phase because no marital phase is exactly an Eldorado. Just pray for life to bless you with people who feel like home to you, whether in friendship or marriage.Ask many married women. Their regret today is failing to enjoy every bit of their single life before rushing into marriage. Yet, another major regret is rushing out of marriage instead of rolling up their sleeves to put in the work, believing that “out there” would hold the same bliss it did while they were single. Trust life to use such moments to clear your mind of all illusions once and for all!That’s also when people begin to come to the following realisations…You were not exactly married to the worst human being in the world. In fact, you may end up meeting people your ex is far better than.Life will not become more blissful out there because of anybody, unless you are equipped to bring bliss into your own life.There will be moments of self-doubt, especially when everyone around you is engrossed in their “spouse and children.” And if your emotional health is not firmly anchored in reason, you may rush into an entanglement.Whatever your marital reality is right now, savour the bliss it brings you. And find the courage to accept the burden it holds in the other hand. And then come the occasional pangs of “not being married” that hit you, not just because of loneliness, but because everyone around you is deafening your hearing with “my husband” or “my wife.”Marriage is a huge achievement because it takes a lot to keep living with someone who makes you so mad you want to quit this minute, but the next minute, you put everything behind you and continue as if they are the best thing that ever happened to you.It’s also not easy to constantly turn away from the myriad of “offers” out there because of your marital reality.When people castigate divorcees, I ask them: Do you think it’s easy to be unmarried after being married? And to start all over again?There are emotions to confront in divorce: anger, disappointment, fond memories, shattered dreams, resentment, trauma, etc. And these emotions can take years to release anyone from their grip.Single parenting is also a huge achievement in my books. The reality of doing the job of two people alone is very tough emotionally, in addition to constantly being “ashawo-shamed” if you are a woman in Nigeria.So, in a way, every marital status is an achievement in a society like ours, where judging and shaming people because of their marital status comes easily to people who most likely do not have joy in their own lives. People who have joy in their lives find it easier to envelop others with empathy, regardless of their marital reality.By the way, I have heard many ladies swear that the only reason they bother about men and marriage is for economic support. They believe that life is more enjoyable for a woman when she is “free”, economically and maritally.If I hadn’t met women who have the money but are terribly lonely, I would be running with this notion.Related NewsAre we growing together or apart? Have a meaningful conversation today (Part 2)My marriage… With Rev Sope RufusEconomic hardship stopping youths from starting families, says UNWomen have settled into marriage with men they have no business touching with a ten-foot pole because of loneliness. One told me how her husband was stealing her money, including money given to him for market runs. In her words, “He knows how to buy less than he is asked to buy and pocket the rest of the money.”Some opinions also claim that once a woman leaves a marriage, she does not want to marry again. But here is my observation…What she doesn’t want to go back to is the marriage she left, not that she is done with the idea of settling down again if a better option comes knocking.The thing about life is that people who are here want to be over there, while those who are already there would give an arm to be here.Single life can be very exciting for a lady until men disappoint her, and she just wants to go and “rest” in marriage. But marriage comes with its own truckload of stress.Whichever side of the divide you find yourself on, learn to enjoy the moment.It’s a mistake to postpone your happiness until you get to the other phase because no marital phase is exactly an Eldorado. Just pray for life to bless you with people who feel like home to you, whether in friendship or marriage.Ask many married women. Their regret today is failing to enjoy every bit of their single life before rushing into marriage. Yet, another major regret is rushing out of marriage instead of rolling up their sleeves to put in the work, believing that “out there” would hold the same bliss it did while they were single. Trust life to use such moments to clear your mind of all illusions once and for all!That’s also when people begin to come to the following realisations…You were not exactly married to the worst human being in the world. In fact, you may end up meeting people your ex is far better than.Life will not become more blissful out there because of anybody, unless you are equipped to bring bliss into your own life.There will be moments of self-doubt, especially when everyone around you is engrossed in their “spouse and children.” And if your emotional health is not firmly anchored in reason, you may rush into an entanglement.Whatever your marital reality is right now, savour the bliss it brings you. And find the courage to accept the burden it holds in the other hand. Marriage is a huge achievement because it takes a lot to keep living with someone who makes you so mad you want to quit this minute, but the next minute, you put everything behind you and continue as if they are the best thing that ever happened to you.It’s also not easy to constantly turn away from the myriad of “offers” out there because of your marital reality.When people castigate divorcees, I ask them: Do you think it’s easy to be unmarried after being married? And to start all over again?There are emotions to confront in divorce: anger, disappointment, fond memories, shattered dreams, resentment, trauma, etc. And these emotions can take years to release anyone from their grip.Single parenting is also a huge achievement in my books. The reality of doing the job of two people alone is very tough emotionally, in addition to constantly being “ashawo-shamed” if you are a woman in Nigeria.So, in a way, every marital status is an achievement in a society like ours, where judging and shaming people because of their marital status comes easily to people who most likely do not have joy in their own lives. People who have joy in their lives find it easier to envelop others with empathy, regardless of their marital reality.By the way, I have heard many ladies swear that the only reason they bother about men and marriage is for economic support. They believe that life is more enjoyable for a woman when she is “free”, economically and maritally.If I hadn’t met women who have the money but are terribly lonely, I would be running with this notion.Related NewsAre we growing together or apart? Have a meaningful conversation today (Part 2)My marriage… With Rev Sope RufusEconomic hardship stopping youths from starting families, says UNWomen have settled into marriage with men they have no business touching with a ten-foot pole because of loneliness. One told me how her husband was stealing her money, including money given to him for market runs. In her words, “He knows how to buy less than he is asked to buy and pocket the rest of the money.”Some opinions also claim that once a woman leaves a marriage, she does not want to marry again. But here is my observation…What she doesn’t want to go back to is the marriage she left, not that she is done with the idea of settling down again if a better option comes knocking.The thing about life is that people who are here want to be over there, while those who are already there would give an arm to be here.Single life can be very exciting for a lady until men disappoint her, and she just wants to go and “rest” in marriage. But marriage comes with its own truckload of stress.Whichever side of the divide you find yourself on, learn to enjoy the moment.It’s a mistake to postpone your happiness until you get to the other phase because no marital phase is exactly an Eldorado. Just pray for life to bless you with people who feel like home to you, whether in friendship or marriage.Ask many married women. Their regret today is failing to enjoy every bit of their single life before rushing into marriage. Yet, another major regret is rushing out of marriage instead of rolling up their sleeves to put in the work, believing that “out there” would hold the same bliss it did while they were single. Trust life to use such moments to clear your mind of all illusions once and for all!That’s also when people begin to come to the following realisations…You were not exactly married to the worst human being in the world. In fact, you may end up meeting people your ex is far better than.Life will not become more blissful out there because of anybody, unless you are equipped to bring bliss into your own life.There will be moments of self-doubt, especially when everyone around you is engrossed in their “spouse and children.” And if your emotional health is not firmly anchored in reason, you may rush into an entanglement.Whatever your marital reality is right now, savour the bliss it brings you. And find the courage to accept the burden it holds in the other hand. It’s also not easy to constantly turn away from the myriad of “offers” out there because of your marital reality.When people castigate divorcees, I ask them: Do you think it’s easy to be unmarried after being married? And to start all over again?There are emotions to confront in divorce: anger, disappointment, fond memories, shattered dreams, resentment, trauma, etc. And these emotions can take years to release anyone from their grip.Single parenting is also a huge achievement in my books. The reality of doing the job of two people alone is very tough emotionally, in addition to constantly being “ashawo-shamed” if you are a woman in Nigeria.So, in a way, every marital status is an achievement in a society like ours, where judging and shaming people because of their marital status comes easily to people who most likely do not have joy in their own lives. People who have joy in their lives find it easier to envelop others with empathy, regardless of their marital reality.By the way, I have heard many ladies swear that the only reason they bother about men and marriage is for economic support. They believe that life is more enjoyable for a woman when she is “free”, economically and maritally.If I hadn’t met women who have the money but are terribly lonely, I would be running with this notion.Related NewsAre we growing together or apart? Have a meaningful conversation today (Part 2)My marriage… With Rev Sope RufusEconomic hardship stopping youths from starting families, says UNWomen have settled into marriage with men they have no business touching with a ten-foot pole because of loneliness. One told me how her husband was stealing her money, including money given to him for market runs. In her words, “He knows how to buy less than he is asked to buy and pocket the rest of the money.”Some opinions also claim that once a woman leaves a marriage, she does not want to marry again. But here is my observation…What she doesn’t want to go back to is the marriage she left, not that she is done with the idea of settling down again if a better option comes knocking.The thing about life is that people who are here want to be over there, while those who are already there would give an arm to be here.Single life can be very exciting for a lady until men disappoint her, and she just wants to go and “rest” in marriage. But marriage comes with its own truckload of stress.Whichever side of the divide you find yourself on, learn to enjoy the moment.It’s a mistake to postpone your happiness until you get to the other phase because no marital phase is exactly an Eldorado. Just pray for life to bless you with people who feel like home to you, whether in friendship or marriage.Ask many married women. Their regret today is failing to enjoy every bit of their single life before rushing into marriage. Yet, another major regret is rushing out of marriage instead of rolling up their sleeves to put in the work, believing that “out there” would hold the same bliss it did while they were single. Trust life to use such moments to clear your mind of all illusions once and for all!That’s also when people begin to come to the following realisations…You were not exactly married to the worst human being in the world. In fact, you may end up meeting people your ex is far better than.Life will not become more blissful out there because of anybody, unless you are equipped to bring bliss into your own life.There will be moments of self-doubt, especially when everyone around you is engrossed in their “spouse and children.” And if your emotional health is not firmly anchored in reason, you may rush into an entanglement.Whatever your marital reality is right now, savour the bliss it brings you. And find the courage to accept the burden it holds in the other hand. When people castigate divorcees, I ask them: Do you think it’s easy to be unmarried after being married? And to start all over again?There are emotions to confront in divorce: anger, disappointment, fond memories, shattered dreams, resentment, trauma, etc. And these emotions can take years to release anyone from their grip.Single parenting is also a huge achievement in my books. The reality of doing the job of two people alone is very tough emotionally, in addition to constantly being “ashawo-shamed” if you are a woman in Nigeria.So, in a way, every marital status is an achievement in a society like ours, where judging and shaming people because of their marital status comes easily to people who most likely do not have joy in their own lives. People who have joy in their lives find it easier to envelop others with empathy, regardless of their marital reality.By the way, I have heard many ladies swear that the only reason they bother about men and marriage is for economic support. They believe that life is more enjoyable for a woman when she is “free”, economically and maritally.If I hadn’t met women who have the money but are terribly lonely, I would be running with this notion.Related NewsAre we growing together or apart? Have a meaningful conversation today (Part 2)My marriage… With Rev Sope RufusEconomic hardship stopping youths from starting families, says UNWomen have settled into marriage with men they have no business touching with a ten-foot pole because of loneliness. One told me how her husband was stealing her money, including money given to him for market runs. In her words, “He knows how to buy less than he is asked to buy and pocket the rest of the money.”Some opinions also claim that once a woman leaves a marriage, she does not want to marry again. But here is my observation…What she doesn’t want to go back to is the marriage she left, not that she is done with the idea of settling down again if a better option comes knocking.The thing about life is that people who are here want to be over there, while those who are already there would give an arm to be here.Single life can be very exciting for a lady until men disappoint her, and she just wants to go and “rest” in marriage. But marriage comes with its own truckload of stress.Whichever side of the divide you find yourself on, learn to enjoy the moment.It’s a mistake to postpone your happiness until you get to the other phase because no marital phase is exactly an Eldorado. Just pray for life to bless you with people who feel like home to you, whether in friendship or marriage.Ask many married women. Their regret today is failing to enjoy every bit of their single life before rushing into marriage. Yet, another major regret is rushing out of marriage instead of rolling up their sleeves to put in the work, believing that “out there” would hold the same bliss it did while they were single. Trust life to use such moments to clear your mind of all illusions once and for all!That’s also when people begin to come to the following realisations…You were not exactly married to the worst human being in the world. In fact, you may end up meeting people your ex is far better than.Life will not become more blissful out there because of anybody, unless you are equipped to bring bliss into your own life.There will be moments of self-doubt, especially when everyone around you is engrossed in their “spouse and children.” And if your emotional health is not firmly anchored in reason, you may rush into an entanglement.Whatever your marital reality is right now, savour the bliss it brings you. And find the courage to accept the burden it holds in the other hand. There are emotions to confront in divorce: anger, disappointment, fond memories, shattered dreams, resentment, trauma, etc. And these emotions can take years to release anyone from their grip.Single parenting is also a huge achievement in my books. The reality of doing the job of two people alone is very tough emotionally, in addition to constantly being “ashawo-shamed” if you are a woman in Nigeria.So, in a way, every marital status is an achievement in a society like ours, where judging and shaming people because of their marital status comes easily to people who most likely do not have joy in their own lives. People who have joy in their lives find it easier to envelop others with empathy, regardless of their marital reality.By the way, I have heard many ladies swear that the only reason they bother about men and marriage is for economic support. They believe that life is more enjoyable for a woman when she is “free”, economically and maritally.If I hadn’t met women who have the money but are terribly lonely, I would be running with this notion.Related NewsAre we growing together or apart? Have a meaningful conversation today (Part 2)My marriage… With Rev Sope RufusEconomic hardship stopping youths from starting families, says UNWomen have settled into marriage with men they have no business touching with a ten-foot pole because of loneliness. One told me how her husband was stealing her money, including money given to him for market runs. In her words, “He knows how to buy less than he is asked to buy and pocket the rest of the money.”Some opinions also claim that once a woman leaves a marriage, she does not want to marry again. But here is my observation…What she doesn’t want to go back to is the marriage she left, not that she is done with the idea of settling down again if a better option comes knocking.The thing about life is that people who are here want to be over there, while those who are already there would give an arm to be here.Single life can be very exciting for a lady until men disappoint her, and she just wants to go and “rest” in marriage. But marriage comes with its own truckload of stress.Whichever side of the divide you find yourself on, learn to enjoy the moment.It’s a mistake to postpone your happiness until you get to the other phase because no marital phase is exactly an Eldorado. Just pray for life to bless you with people who feel like home to you, whether in friendship or marriage.Ask many married women. Their regret today is failing to enjoy every bit of their single life before rushing into marriage. Yet, another major regret is rushing out of marriage instead of rolling up their sleeves to put in the work, believing that “out there” would hold the same bliss it did while they were single. Trust life to use such moments to clear your mind of all illusions once and for all!That’s also when people begin to come to the following realisations…You were not exactly married to the worst human being in the world. In fact, you may end up meeting people your ex is far better than.Life will not become more blissful out there because of anybody, unless you are equipped to bring bliss into your own life.There will be moments of self-doubt, especially when everyone around you is engrossed in their “spouse and children.” And if your emotional health is not firmly anchored in reason, you may rush into an entanglement.Whatever your marital reality is right now, savour the bliss it brings you. And find the courage to accept the burden it holds in the other hand. Single parenting is also a huge achievement in my books. The reality of doing the job of two people alone is very tough emotionally, in addition to constantly being “ashawo-shamed” if you are a woman in Nigeria.So, in a way, every marital status is an achievement in a society like ours, where judging and shaming people because of their marital status comes easily to people who most likely do not have joy in their own lives. People who have joy in their lives find it easier to envelop others with empathy, regardless of their marital reality.By the way, I have heard many ladies swear that the only reason they bother about men and marriage is for economic support. They believe that life is more enjoyable for a woman when she is “free”, economically and maritally.If I hadn’t met women who have the money but are terribly lonely, I would be running with this notion.Related NewsAre we growing together or apart? Have a meaningful conversation today (Part 2)My marriage… With Rev Sope RufusEconomic hardship stopping youths from starting families, says UNWomen have settled into marriage with men they have no business touching with a ten-foot pole because of loneliness. One told me how her husband was stealing her money, including money given to him for market runs. In her words, “He knows how to buy less than he is asked to buy and pocket the rest of the money.”Some opinions also claim that once a woman leaves a marriage, she does not want to marry again. But here is my observation…What she doesn’t want to go back to is the marriage she left, not that she is done with the idea of settling down again if a better option comes knocking.The thing about life is that people who are here want to be over there, while those who are already there would give an arm to be here.Single life can be very exciting for a lady until men disappoint her, and she just wants to go and “rest” in marriage. But marriage comes with its own truckload of stress.Whichever side of the divide you find yourself on, learn to enjoy the moment.It’s a mistake to postpone your happiness until you get to the other phase because no marital phase is exactly an Eldorado. Just pray for life to bless you with people who feel like home to you, whether in friendship or marriage.Ask many married women. Their regret today is failing to enjoy every bit of their single life before rushing into marriage. Yet, another major regret is rushing out of marriage instead of rolling up their sleeves to put in the work, believing that “out there” would hold the same bliss it did while they were single. Trust life to use such moments to clear your mind of all illusions once and for all!That’s also when people begin to come to the following realisations…You were not exactly married to the worst human being in the world. In fact, you may end up meeting people your ex is far better than.Life will not become more blissful out there because of anybody, unless you are equipped to bring bliss into your own life.There will be moments of self-doubt, especially when everyone around you is engrossed in their “spouse and children.” And if your emotional health is not firmly anchored in reason, you may rush into an entanglement.Whatever your marital reality is right now, savour the bliss it brings you. And find the courage to accept the burden it holds in the other hand. So, in a way, every marital status is an achievement in a society like ours, where judging and shaming people because of their marital status comes easily to people who most likely do not have joy in their own lives. People who have joy in their lives find it easier to envelop others with empathy, regardless of their marital reality.By the way, I have heard many ladies swear that the only reason they bother about men and marriage is for economic support. They believe that life is more enjoyable for a woman when she is “free”, economically and maritally.If I hadn’t met women who have the money but are terribly lonely, I would be running with this notion.Related NewsAre we growing together or apart? Have a meaningful conversation today (Part 2)My marriage… With Rev Sope RufusEconomic hardship stopping youths from starting families, says UNWomen have settled into marriage with men they have no business touching with a ten-foot pole because of loneliness. One told me how her husband was stealing her money, including money given to him for market runs. In her words, “He knows how to buy less than he is asked to buy and pocket the rest of the money.”Some opinions also claim that once a woman leaves a marriage, she does not want to marry again. But here is my observation…What she doesn’t want to go back to is the marriage she left, not that she is done with the idea of settling down again if a better option comes knocking.The thing about life is that people who are here want to be over there, while those who are already there would give an arm to be here.Single life can be very exciting for a lady until men disappoint her, and she just wants to go and “rest” in marriage. But marriage comes with its own truckload of stress.Whichever side of the divide you find yourself on, learn to enjoy the moment.It’s a mistake to postpone your happiness until you get to the other phase because no marital phase is exactly an Eldorado. Just pray for life to bless you with people who feel like home to you, whether in friendship or marriage.Ask many married women. Their regret today is failing to enjoy every bit of their single life before rushing into marriage. Yet, another major regret is rushing out of marriage instead of rolling up their sleeves to put in the work, believing that “out there” would hold the same bliss it did while they were single. Trust life to use such moments to clear your mind of all illusions once and for all!That’s also when people begin to come to the following realisations…You were not exactly married to the worst human being in the world. In fact, you may end up meeting people your ex is far better than.Life will not become more blissful out there because of anybody, unless you are equipped to bring bliss into your own life.There will be moments of self-doubt, especially when everyone around you is engrossed in their “spouse and children.” And if your emotional health is not firmly anchored in reason, you may rush into an entanglement.Whatever your marital reality is right now, savour the bliss it brings you. And find the courage to accept the burden it holds in the other hand. By the way, I have heard many ladies swear that the only reason they bother about men and marriage is for economic support. They believe that life is more enjoyable for a woman when she is “free”, economically and maritally.If I hadn’t met women who have the money but are terribly lonely, I would be running with this notion.Related NewsAre we growing together or apart? Have a meaningful conversation today (Part 2)My marriage… With Rev Sope RufusEconomic hardship stopping youths from starting families, says UNWomen have settled into marriage with men they have no business touching with a ten-foot pole because of loneliness. One told me how her husband was stealing her money, including money given to him for market runs. In her words, “He knows how to buy less than he is asked to buy and pocket the rest of the money.”Some opinions also claim that once a woman leaves a marriage, she does not want to marry again. But here is my observation…What she doesn’t want to go back to is the marriage she left, not that she is done with the idea of settling down again if a better option comes knocking.The thing about life is that people who are here want to be over there, while those who are already there would give an arm to be here.Single life can be very exciting for a lady until men disappoint her, and she just wants to go and “rest” in marriage. But marriage comes with its own truckload of stress.Whichever side of the divide you find yourself on, learn to enjoy the moment.It’s a mistake to postpone your happiness until you get to the other phase because no marital phase is exactly an Eldorado. Just pray for life to bless you with people who feel like home to you, whether in friendship or marriage.Ask many married women. Their regret today is failing to enjoy every bit of their single life before rushing into marriage. Yet, another major regret is rushing out of marriage instead of rolling up their sleeves to put in the work, believing that “out there” would hold the same bliss it did while they were single. Trust life to use such moments to clear your mind of all illusions once and for all!That’s also when people begin to come to the following realisations…You were not exactly married to the worst human being in the world. In fact, you may end up meeting people your ex is far better than.Life will not become more blissful out there because of anybody, unless you are equipped to bring bliss into your own life.There will be moments of self-doubt, especially when everyone around you is engrossed in their “spouse and children.” And if your emotional health is not firmly anchored in reason, you may rush into an entanglement.Whatever your marital reality is right now, savour the bliss it brings you. And find the courage to accept the burden it holds in the other hand. If I hadn’t met women who have the money but are terribly lonely, I would be running with this notion.Related NewsAre we growing together or apart? Have a meaningful conversation today (Part 2)My marriage… With Rev Sope RufusEconomic hardship stopping youths from starting families, says UNWomen have settled into marriage with men they have no business touching with a ten-foot pole because of loneliness. One told me how her husband was stealing her money, including money given to him for market runs. In her words, “He knows how to buy less than he is asked to buy and pocket the rest of the money.”Some opinions also claim that once a woman leaves a marriage, she does not want to marry again. But here is my observation…What she doesn’t want to go back to is the marriage she left, not that she is done with the idea of settling down again if a better option comes knocking.The thing about life is that people who are here want to be over there, while those who are already there would give an arm to be here.Single life can be very exciting for a lady until men disappoint her, and she just wants to go and “rest” in marriage. But marriage comes with its own truckload of stress.Whichever side of the divide you find yourself on, learn to enjoy the moment.It’s a mistake to postpone your happiness until you get to the other phase because no marital phase is exactly an Eldorado. Just pray for life to bless you with people who feel like home to you, whether in friendship or marriage.Ask many married women. Their regret today is failing to enjoy every bit of their single life before rushing into marriage. Yet, another major regret is rushing out of marriage instead of rolling up their sleeves to put in the work, believing that “out there” would hold the same bliss it did while they were single. Trust life to use such moments to clear your mind of all illusions once and for all!That’s also when people begin to come to the following realisations…You were not exactly married to the worst human being in the world. In fact, you may end up meeting people your ex is far better than.Life will not become more blissful out there because of anybody, unless you are equipped to bring bliss into your own life.There will be moments of self-doubt, especially when everyone around you is engrossed in their “spouse and children.” And if your emotional health is not firmly anchored in reason, you may rush into an entanglement.Whatever your marital reality is right now, savour the bliss it brings you. And find the courage to accept the burden it holds in the other hand. Women have settled into marriage with men they have no business touching with a ten-foot pole because of loneliness. One told me how her husband was stealing her money, including money given to him for market runs. In her words, “He knows how to buy less than he is asked to buy and pocket the rest of the money.”Some opinions also claim that once a woman leaves a marriage, she does not want to marry again. But here is my observation…What she doesn’t want to go back to is the marriage she left, not that she is done with the idea of settling down again if a better option comes knocking.The thing about life is that people who are here want to be over there, while those who are already there would give an arm to be here.Single life can be very exciting for a lady until men disappoint her, and she just wants to go and “rest” in marriage. But marriage comes with its own truckload of stress.Whichever side of the divide you find yourself on, learn to enjoy the moment.It’s a mistake to postpone your happiness until you get to the other phase because no marital phase is exactly an Eldorado. Just pray for life to bless you with people who feel like home to you, whether in friendship or marriage.Ask many married women. Their regret today is failing to enjoy every bit of their single life before rushing into marriage. Yet, another major regret is rushing out of marriage instead of rolling up their sleeves to put in the work, believing that “out there” would hold the same bliss it did while they were single. Trust life to use such moments to clear your mind of all illusions once and for all!That’s also when people begin to come to the following realisations…You were not exactly married to the worst human being in the world. In fact, you may end up meeting people your ex is far better than.Life will not become more blissful out there because of anybody, unless you are equipped to bring bliss into your own life.There will be moments of self-doubt, especially when everyone around you is engrossed in their “spouse and children.” And if your emotional health is not firmly anchored in reason, you may rush into an entanglement.Whatever your marital reality is right now, savour the bliss it brings you. And find the courage to accept the burden it holds in the other hand. Some opinions also claim that once a woman leaves a marriage, she does not want to marry again. But here is my observation…What she doesn’t want to go back to is the marriage she left, not that she is done with the idea of settling down again if a better option comes knocking.The thing about life is that people who are here want to be over there, while those who are already there would give an arm to be here.Single life can be very exciting for a lady until men disappoint her, and she just wants to go and “rest” in marriage. But marriage comes with its own truckload of stress.Whichever side of the divide you find yourself on, learn to enjoy the moment.It’s a mistake to postpone your happiness until you get to the other phase because no marital phase is exactly an Eldorado. Just pray for life to bless you with people who feel like home to you, whether in friendship or marriage.Ask many married women. Their regret today is failing to enjoy every bit of their single life before rushing into marriage. Yet, another major regret is rushing out of marriage instead of rolling up their sleeves to put in the work, believing that “out there” would hold the same bliss it did while they were single. Trust life to use such moments to clear your mind of all illusions once and for all!That’s also when people begin to come to the following realisations…You were not exactly married to the worst human being in the world. In fact, you may end up meeting people your ex is far better than.Life will not become more blissful out there because of anybody, unless you are equipped to bring bliss into your own life.There will be moments of self-doubt, especially when everyone around you is engrossed in their “spouse and children.” And if your emotional health is not firmly anchored in reason, you may rush into an entanglement.Whatever your marital reality is right now, savour the bliss it brings you. And find the courage to accept the burden it holds in the other hand. What she doesn’t want to go back to is the marriage she left, not that she is done with the idea of settling down again if a better option comes knocking.The thing about life is that people who are here want to be over there, while those who are already there would give an arm to be here.Single life can be very exciting for a lady until men disappoint her, and she just wants to go and “rest” in marriage. But marriage comes with its own truckload of stress.Whichever side of the divide you find yourself on, learn to enjoy the moment.It’s a mistake to postpone your happiness until you get to the other phase because no marital phase is exactly an Eldorado. Just pray for life to bless you with people who feel like home to you, whether in friendship or marriage.Ask many married women. Their regret today is failing to enjoy every bit of their single life before rushing into marriage. Yet, another major regret is rushing out of marriage instead of rolling up their sleeves to put in the work, believing that “out there” would hold the same bliss it did while they were single. Trust life to use such moments to clear your mind of all illusions once and for all!That’s also when people begin to come to the following realisations…You were not exactly married to the worst human being in the world. In fact, you may end up meeting people your ex is far better than.Life will not become more blissful out there because of anybody, unless you are equipped to bring bliss into your own life.There will be moments of self-doubt, especially when everyone around you is engrossed in their “spouse and children.” And if your emotional health is not firmly anchored in reason, you may rush into an entanglement.Whatever your marital reality is right now, savour the bliss it brings you. And find the courage to accept the burden it holds in the other hand. The thing about life is that people who are here want to be over there, while those who are already there would give an arm to be here.Single life can be very exciting for a lady until men disappoint her, and she just wants to go and “rest” in marriage. But marriage comes with its own truckload of stress.Whichever side of the divide you find yourself on, learn to enjoy the moment.It’s a mistake to postpone your happiness until you get to the other phase because no marital phase is exactly an Eldorado. Just pray for life to bless you with people who feel like home to you, whether in friendship or marriage.Ask many married women. Their regret today is failing to enjoy every bit of their single life before rushing into marriage. Yet, another major regret is rushing out of marriage instead of rolling up their sleeves to put in the work, believing that “out there” would hold the same bliss it did while they were single. Trust life to use such moments to clear your mind of all illusions once and for all!That’s also when people begin to come to the following realisations…You were not exactly married to the worst human being in the world. In fact, you may end up meeting people your ex is far better than.Life will not become more blissful out there because of anybody, unless you are equipped to bring bliss into your own life.There will be moments of self-doubt, especially when everyone around you is engrossed in their “spouse and children.” And if your emotional health is not firmly anchored in reason, you may rush into an entanglement.Whatever your marital reality is right now, savour the bliss it brings you. And find the courage to accept the burden it holds in the other hand. Single life can be very exciting for a lady until men disappoint her, and she just wants to go and “rest” in marriage. But marriage comes with its own truckload of stress.Whichever side of the divide you find yourself on, learn to enjoy the moment.It’s a mistake to postpone your happiness until you get to the other phase because no marital phase is exactly an Eldorado. Just pray for life to bless you with people who feel like home to you, whether in friendship or marriage.Ask many married women. Their regret today is failing to enjoy every bit of their single life before rushing into marriage. Yet, another major regret is rushing out of marriage instead of rolling up their sleeves to put in the work, believing that “out there” would hold the same bliss it did while they were single. Trust life to use such moments to clear your mind of all illusions once and for all!That’s also when people begin to come to the following realisations…You were not exactly married to the worst human being in the world. In fact, you may end up meeting people your ex is far better than.Life will not become more blissful out there because of anybody, unless you are equipped to bring bliss into your own life.There will be moments of self-doubt, especially when everyone around you is engrossed in their “spouse and children.” And if your emotional health is not firmly anchored in reason, you may rush into an entanglement.Whatever your marital reality is right now, savour the bliss it brings you. And find the courage to accept the burden it holds in the other hand. Whichever side of the divide you find yourself on, learn to enjoy the moment.It’s a mistake to postpone your happiness until you get to the other phase because no marital phase is exactly an Eldorado. Just pray for life to bless you with people who feel like home to you, whether in friendship or marriage.Ask many married women. Their regret today is failing to enjoy every bit of their single life before rushing into marriage. Yet, another major regret is rushing out of marriage instead of rolling up their sleeves to put in the work, believing that “out there” would hold the same bliss it did while they were single. Trust life to use such moments to clear your mind of all illusions once and for all!That’s also when people begin to come to the following realisations…You were not exactly married to the worst human being in the world. In fact, you may end up meeting people your ex is far better than.Life will not become more blissful out there because of anybody, unless you are equipped to bring bliss into your own life.There will be moments of self-doubt, especially when everyone around you is engrossed in their “spouse and children.” And if your emotional health is not firmly anchored in reason, you may rush into an entanglement.Whatever your marital reality is right now, savour the bliss it brings you. And find the courage to accept the burden it holds in the other hand. It’s a mistake to postpone your happiness until you get to the other phase because no marital phase is exactly an Eldorado. Just pray for life to bless you with people who feel like home to you, whether in friendship or marriage.Ask many married women. Their regret today is failing to enjoy every bit of their single life before rushing into marriage. Yet, another major regret is rushing out of marriage instead of rolling up their sleeves to put in the work, believing that “out there” would hold the same bliss it did while they were single. Trust life to use such moments to clear your mind of all illusions once and for all!That’s also when people begin to come to the following realisations…You were not exactly married to the worst human being in the world. In fact, you may end up meeting people your ex is far better than.Life will not become more blissful out there because of anybody, unless you are equipped to bring bliss into your own life.There will be moments of self-doubt, especially when everyone around you is engrossed in their “spouse and children.” And if your emotional health is not firmly anchored in reason, you may rush into an entanglement.Whatever your marital reality is right now, savour the bliss it brings you. And find the courage to accept the burden it holds in the other hand. Ask many married women. Their regret today is failing to enjoy every bit of their single life before rushing into marriage. Yet, another major regret is rushing out of marriage instead of rolling up their sleeves to put in the work, believing that “out there” would hold the same bliss it did while they were single. Trust life to use such moments to clear your mind of all illusions once and for all!That’s also when people begin to come to the following realisations…You were not exactly married to the worst human being in the world. In fact, you may end up meeting people your ex is far better than.Life will not become more blissful out there because of anybody, unless you are equipped to bring bliss into your own life.There will be moments of self-doubt, especially when everyone around you is engrossed in their “spouse and children.” And if your emotional health is not firmly anchored in reason, you may rush into an entanglement.Whatever your marital reality is right now, savour the bliss it brings you. And find the courage to accept the burden it holds in the other hand. That’s also when people begin to come to the following realisations…You were not exactly married to the worst human being in the world. In fact, you may end up meeting people your ex is far better than.Life will not become more blissful out there because of anybody, unless you are equipped to bring bliss into your own life.There will be moments of self-doubt, especially when everyone around you is engrossed in their “spouse and children.” And if your emotional health is not firmly anchored in reason, you may rush into an entanglement.Whatever your marital reality is right now, savour the bliss it brings you. And find the courage to accept the burden it holds in the other hand. You were not exactly married to the worst human being in the world. In fact, you may end up meeting people your ex is far better than.Life will not become more blissful out there because of anybody, unless you are equipped to bring bliss into your own life.There will be moments of self-doubt, especially when everyone around you is engrossed in their “spouse and children.” And if your emotional health is not firmly anchored in reason, you may rush into an entanglement.Whatever your marital reality is right now, savour the bliss it brings you. And find the courage to accept the burden it holds in the other hand. Life will not become more blissful out there because of anybody, unless you are equipped to bring bliss into your own life.There will be moments of self-doubt, especially when everyone around you is engrossed in their “spouse and children.” And if your emotional health is not firmly anchored in reason, you may rush into an entanglement.Whatever your marital reality is right now, savour the bliss it brings you. And find the courage to accept the burden it holds in the other hand. There will be moments of self-doubt, especially when everyone around you is engrossed in their “spouse and children.” And if your emotional health is not firmly anchored in reason, you may rush into an entanglement.Whatever your marital reality is right now, savour the bliss it brings you. And find the courage to accept the burden it holds in the other hand. Whatever your marital reality is right now, savour the bliss it brings you. And find the courage to accept the burden it holds in the other hand.